Stepping Into the New Year: Reflections, Motherhood, and Mindset Shifts
Life often feels unfair in the moment, doesn’t it? But when we look back, those challenges often reveal themselves as blessings in disguise. I’ve realized this is the story of most of our lives—a patchwork of struggles and triumphs that only makes sense when viewed in hindsight.
As we step into a new year, it feels right to pause and reflect on the year we’ve left behind.
A Year of Unexpected Changes
For me, 2024 was the year I fully stepped into motherhood. I found myself unexpectedly in the role of a stay-at-home mom—a path I hadn’t planned for or anticipated. I spent countless hours worrying about my future and feeling like I wasn’t doing “enough,” particularly when it came to my career.
Don’t get me wrong—watching my daughter grow and hit her milestones has been nothing short of magical. But as someone who thrives on structure, routine, and a sense of accomplishment, this new chapter of life left me feeling completely disoriented. My carefully curated “schedule” was thrown out the window, and I often felt like I was stumbling in the dark.
The Battle of the Mind
A lot happens in a year, and it’s impossible to capture it all in a single piece. But if I were to name the most significant challenge, it’s been the battle for a mindset shift.
I went from feeling broke and unemployed to building a successful property business during my maternity leave. This journey—from feeling helpless to finding purpose—has been transformative, but not without its hurdles.
The hardest part? Letting go of the notion that life needs to follow a plan.
The Monday Reality Check
Fast forward to today: It’s Monday, January 7th, 2025—the day I officially set aside to “return to work.” As a self-employed mom, this feels monumental. But let me be honest: I’ve technically been working through December, ensuring my Airbnb was guest-ready throughout the festive season.
Still, I woke up today brimming with excitement to start the year on a high note. The morning began with BIG plans, a cup of green tea, and a determination to hit the ground running.
But reality hit hard as I walked into my home office. Chaos greeted me—piles of misplaced items, remnants of my absence, and a glaring reminder that life doesn’t pause for tidy plans.
3 Useful Tips for Tackling Chaos
As I attempt to reclaim my rhythm, here are three strategies I’m committing to:
- Write a To-Do List
There’s nothing like a clear, actionable list to guide your day. Breaking down tasks into manageable chunks makes everything feel more achievable. - Create a Routine
While flexibility is key, a consistent routine can anchor your day. Whether it’s a morning ritual or dedicated work hours, find what works for you. - Limit Social Media
Doom scrolling is the thief of time. Setting boundaries around social media can help you stay focused and present.
Moving Forward
Motherhood, entrepreneurship, and life, in general, rarely go according to plan. But there’s beauty in learning to adapt, finding purpose in unexpected roles, and embracing the messiness of it all.
So here’s to the new year—imperfect, unpredictable, but full of promise. Let’s keep moving forward, one step at a time.
Slow and Steady: A New Mom’s Journey to Wellness
I really thought jumping back into the swing of things would be easier. Spoiler alert—it’s not. And honestly, I feel a little silly for thinking it would be.
Before this season of life, I was used to giving 100%, seeing results, and moving on to the next thing—quickly and efficiently. But motherhood? It’s been a lesson in patience, humility, and the art of slow progress.
Lessons from the Mat
Take today, for instance. It’s Tuesday, January 14th, and I’m on Day 2 of my annual yoga challenge with Adriene. Her challenges have always been my go-to for jumpstarting the year—they usually help me get into the groove of things.
Last year was a completely different story. I was three months postpartum, and instead of completing the 30-day challenge in a month, it took me nearly three. My body had just gone through major surgery (hello, C-section), and I had grown an entire human being over 39 weeks. Somehow, I thought I’d bounce back immediately—like, what was I thinking?
That was the beginning of my “take-it-easy” journey. Instead of clinging to my pre-baby fitness expectations, I adjusted my mindset. My new goal? Simply to move my body.
Redefining Movement
Some days, movement looked like a gentle stroll around the neighborhood with my daughter (fun fact: I think she might love those walks even more than I do).
Other days, it was a guided yoga or Pilates session. And on the really focused days, I’d do low-impact routines targeting diastasis recti recovery.
I wish I could say I kept track of my workouts—but I didn’t. Some weeks, I was so physically and mentally burnt out that I only managed two sessions. And you know what? That’s okay.
If you’re a breastfeeding mom, you’ll understand the sheer exhaustion that follows each feed. That alone can feel like a full-body workout. So, I adapted. My wellness routines became less about intensity and more about showing up for myself in whatever way I could.
For the New Mom Reading This
If you’re a new mom struggling to find time for yourself, I see you. I am you. It’s hard. Finding the energy to prioritize your wellness can feel like an extreme sport, but it’s not impossible.
Here are a few tips that helped me carve out time for self-care:
1. Be Kind to Yourself
Let go of the unrealistic expectations. Your body has done incredible things—give it grace as it adjusts.
2. Find What Works for You
Whether it’s a 10-minute stretch, a walk with your baby, or a guided low-impact workout, choose something that fits your current energy levels and lifestyle.
3. Just Show Up
Even on the days you’re tired or uninspired, step onto the mat or lace up your shoes. Most of the time, the hardest part is starting. Once you begin, the movement will flow, and you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment.
Filling Your Cup
It’s true what they say—you can’t pour from an empty cup. The more healthy and whole you are, the better you’ll show up for your loved ones. Prioritizing your wellness isn’t selfish; it’s necessary.
So, mama, take it one step at a time. Slow and steady wins the race—and trust me, you’re doing amazing.